Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Adventures of a Cancer Diva: Everyday Angels

I am fortunate to have many angels in my life: friends & loved ones who send me funny cards, stop by to visit (or understand when I need alone time), help me with my blog (the technical aspects that drive me bonkers!), send or bring treats (chicken soup & cheese straws & chocolate covered strawberries . . oh my!).  One dear friend & former colleague was so understanding when I was late and completely missed our lunch date-- and she even brought me lunch @ my next appointment.  Another BFF checks in so often she calls herself my stalker.  You are not my stalker, dear friend; cancer is my stalker.

Recently a truly beautiful and giving angel popped into my life via the Internet, at a time of desperation.  It was my first week of short term disability (STD) and I had spent dozens of hours online & on the phone trying to plan a trip someplace warm and zen and healing, and to coincide with lovely daughter (LD)'s Spring break.  Last year, I had an actual prescription to take a vacation. 



This year, I knew the signs and symptoms, and was writing my own prescription.  But attempting to plan this was the anti-zen, as it was very last minute; there was  little availability, and the zen was coming at a high price. I couldn't decide where to go, and even when I narrowed it down, it seemed impossible to get there.  Then, for some reason, my zillionth google search led me to a websitewww.MindfulAdventures.com

The website describes various destination spas, retreats, workshops, wellness and healthy living.  There is a photo of a smiling, pretty woman named Donna. She is a travel and wellness writer and also works with people looking to make changes in their lives, e.g., kick start fitness, weight loss, eat healthier, deal with a transition.  She looked and sounded like someone I'd enjoy talking to, and there was an actual old-fashioned phone number.  I called it, and  . .  no recording, no enter 2 for such & such department, no busy signal . . . . Donna answered the phone.  An excellent start that got better and better.  We chatted; I told her what I was looking for; described my situation (LD's Spring break coming up soon; I'd love to have some time with her; need to heal physically, mentally, spiritually, and whatever other way there might be to heal . . . yeah, I guess I played the C-card.)

Donna sprung into action.  She suggested a place; booked it; and helped me with all of the details.  This involved about six more phone calls, including some from Donna to me while I was in the chemo room, waiting for lab results.  She was so friendly, easy to talk to, sorry to disturb me . .  I was delighted to have this help!! Within hours, we were booked.  By the next day, LD and I had our spa appointments in place.  Tucson, here we come!  83 degrees and sunny! DC is dreary and way too cold for March.  LD and I will be staying at Miraval Spa & Resort.  Check it out.  www.miravalresorts.com   It's a big splurge, but hey, what would I be waiting for?

Meanwhile, Donna and I both felt like we had made a new friend.  She said there was a reason our paths crossed, and I believe that. Several days later, I looked at Donna's website and her new blog post.  She wrote about her donation of a kidney to her husband, as his best chance for survival.  http://mindfuladventures.com/blog/index.php/2013/03/14/embracing-hope-finding-faith-part-1/

Donna gets it.  That's why we bonded. Another patient with a chronic disease told me when we first connected that he is drawn to people who have faced adversity and lived up to the challenge.  I couldn't have said it better myself.  And I believe it's these everyday angels that help us get through each day.

So, be an angel for someone this week.  Anyone.  maybe someone you don't know.  Pay it forward.

CDiva








4 comments:

  1. Sandi, you're amazing! Enjoy the warmth of the Arizona sun and the special time with your daughter!

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  2. as your angel friend with a chronic illness, this site itself is healing and inspiring. I just lost a very close friend to thyroid cancer that metastasized, and your blog made me think how special you are to be taking time with LD and takeing care to smell the cacti....Love P

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  3. Big C or not, its wonderful when you find and connect with people like Donna in this world. Happy to hear you are taking the time for such a fabulous retreat and with your daughter too. As always, thanks for sharing and remind all of us to appreciate the little gifts that come our way--friendship, angels...

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  4. Thank you for the book by Pena Chodron (w/umlauts), "When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times," and the CD of that magic summer in Soller. Even though I'm an atheist, and I don't relate to the spirituality stuff, I find her advice about embracing (not fighting)life's pains speaking to me. Haven't read much, but looking forward to it. P$L

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